13 Ways to Have More Mindful Sex

Forget the romantic chocolates and acrobatics: A recent study suggests that we can actually think our way to better sex. Researchers at Brown University showed that women who received “mindfulness” training reported their responses (“calm,” “excited” or “aroused”) to erotic pictures faster than they did before the course. Such responses reflect the ability to register changes in your body. You may lack awareness of sensation and arousal during sex, researchers say, if you’re too busy thinking about the grocery list or knocking around self-doubts like, “Do I look fat right now?” We talked to Marsha Lucas, Ph.D., a psychotherapist and neuropsychologist in Washington, D.C., and author of Rewire Your Brain for Love, about how to use mindfulness to improve your sex life.